Or it should be - about having fun that is. Aren't hobbies supposed to be fun? So why do we impose so many "rules" on what should be a stress buster not a stress giver? We all do it - or at least most of us do. We play games with ourselves.
"I won't buy any fabric this month." But the first hours of the next month find us placing a large on-line order. And that's okay because it's a new month? If you have too much on May 1st and don't use a significant amount during the month then you STILL have too much on June 1st. So why should it be alright to practise indiscriminate buying 1 minute after midnight when it was "forbidden" 1 minute before. I don't know about you but the quickest way to get me to do something is to tell me I can't! So then we expand our games and say, "well I can buy borders/backings/binding/ backgrounds." So those 40 yards are okay to purchase but the odd FQ bought just because it's pretty is an illegal purchase! And when we do cave and buy the FQ we feel guilty? Guilty over buying a $2 FQ!!!! I don't know about you but there's lots more important things to stress over than a $2 impulse purchase!
"I'm only going to work on UFOs" Another game we play with ourselves. One that's guaranteed to make me want to work on ANYTHING but UFOS or will make me just work on nothing at all. I'm thinking what's the use in having a stash that you aren't "allowed" to use because you can only work on UFOs? Almost as bad is the "I must finish 2 UFOs before I can start a new quilt." Again guaranteed to make me just do nothing.
"I have to make X number of charity quilts before I can make one for myself" or "I have to make one for everyone I know before I can make one for myself." Why should everyone else be put before us? You know what? I DO NOT HAVE A QUILT FOR MY BED! Yes I have quilts I sleep under but not one to use as a pretty covering for my king-sized bed. And my DH slept under a RAG for the longest time before I made him a new quilt all his own. Now how sad is that? Which is why the rule around my house now is, "If David likes it - it's his!" Doesn't matter who it was originally intended for - it's his. Cause what could be more important than making a quilt for my love?
"Every quilt has to have a purpose." Why? Can't we just make a quilt for the fun of testing a new pattern or technique or just because we want to play with pretty fabric? The first thing David usually asks when I show him a finished top is "who is that for?" Well - nobody in particular! And that's okay. Every quilt DOESN'T have to have a purpose beyond the joy it gives the maker in the making. And if it's NOT giving you joy in the making then STOP MAKING IT! Which leads me to the next "rule".
"I have to finish everything I start". Even if it's a total screw-up that isn't turning out anything like we thought and is causing us a whole lot of stress. We still think we have to finish. And feel guilty when we put it aside to work on new, more fun, things. Why should it be so hard to accept that not everything needs to be finished. It's okay to give away, toss away, repurpose a quilt.
I could go on and on listing the rules we set for ourselves but then I'd be late for work. So what has this rant/ramble let to? My new resolution to only do what pleases me. No more rules. No more games with myself. I'll work on what I want, when I want. And this extends to my blog which is one reason I dropped from the rings. That's just a whole nother set of "rules" to have to follow. And as someone said in an email they sent yesterday, "I'm glad to see you've dropped out of the rings, "at our age" the only drummer we need to be following is our OWN, lol. The expectations we put on ourselves when we join these things is darn-right stressful." And she was 100% correct!
So from now on - it's all about having fun!
And as a PS if you're wondering how the first group of kittens is doing, as you can see they're doing just fine. :-)